Life is hard sometimes. There’s just no getting around it. There is tragedy that can happen at any moment. There are heartbreaks that we can’t plan for. There is death and sickness. And there are everyday stressors like finances, work stress, family and relationship struggles.
Life is just hard sometimes. Right now has been one of those times for me. And I don’t mind admitting it. There is nothing in particular wrong right now, but there are multiple stressors that mount up to feeling overwhelmed. And my family and I have known more than our fare share of loss, with two tragic and sad deaths of loved ones in the past few months.
I feel like I’ve been teeter-tottering with depression lately. Most days, I have an armory of tools that I use to fight this. I know the things that rejuvenate my soul. Exercise, nature, fresh air, supportive family and friends, a healthy diet, adequate rest, spiritual faith and connection, music, meditation, writing, art. I use all of these tools to improve my mood and health.
The recent gray and cold weather, my hormones and menstrual cycles leaving me emotional, tired, and in pain, along with all the other stressors that are occurring in my life right now, has tipped the balance, and I have just wanted to cry for the past couple days, and have cried atleast a couple times. Not to mention the fact that the whole world has been living through a pandemic for the past two years, we’re currently also living with the stress of knowing that there is a terrifying and tragic war going on, and poverty abounds world-wide. There are really an unlimited amount of stressors and things to be sad over.
There have been days that I wanted to just lay in bed and cry.
And I’m not afraid to admit it. Life is hard sometimes. Sometimes we cry. Sometimes we hurt. And that’s okay. It is an undeniable part of life.
What to do in times like these? Keep going. Rest if you need to. Cry if you need to. Take the time to listen to your body, and continue to feed it the things that you know nourish your mind, body, and spirit. Even if you don’t really feel like it. If you don’t have the energy or motivation to do the things that you know rejuvenate you, then take baby steps.
You know exercise makes you feel better, but you can’t seem to make it to the gym? Find something you can do at home that’s quick and easy… do some squats or put your favorite song on and dance around the house. No energy for those things? Just spend 5 minutes stretching. It doesn’t require much time or energy, but is still so good for your body.
You know you need fruits and veggies to keep you feeling healthy, but making a healthy meal sounds tedious and/or expensive? Grab a piece of fruit or make sure you’re drinking plenty of water. Even just this small bit of healthiness helps.
Feel depressed, but don’t feel like talking about it or reaching out? Read or listen to something that you know is uplifting, spiritual, inspirational, or comforting. Meditating with a positive mantra can also help your emotional and mental state. But reaching out to someone you know will be supportive is really great, too. You don’t have to do it alone. People love you, I promise.
Feeling overwhelmed by all of life’s responsibilities and it’s sapping the motivation out of you? Make a list of your to-do’s and feel the satisfaction of checking them off your list as you complete them. Add the small things that occupy your time that we take for granted…. do the dishes, clean the bathroom, go to the grocery store, schedule your kid’s doctor appointment, pay your gas bill. Give yourself credit for the hundreds of tasks you complete everyday but don’t think much of because they are essential and daily.
I don’t think we give ourselves nearly enough credit for all the small tasks we do. But it’s the small steps that make up the big steps. They matter. And giving ourselves credit for completing them can serve as a great reminder of how hard we work and boost motivation.
Some of the things I’ve been doing to get out of my recent funk?
Life seems overwhelming… I’ve been making a to-do list and checking off when tasks are completed!
Fighting feelings of depression and disconnect… I’ve been praying, reading an inspirational/spiritual book, went and spent time with my mama the other day, and did some meditation and writing this morning.
My body has been feeling tired. My menstrual cycle (which can be pretty rough with endometriosis) has had me hormonal, tired, and in pain. I’ve also had a mild sinus infection… So, I’ve been trying to make sure I get plenty of water, eat fruits and veggies as often as I can, get adequate sleep, and exercise.
None of these things will make you feel amazing immediately or solve your problems all at once. But trust the process. Know that these things are good for you. And if you can do them consistently, you WILL feel better and do better. You WILL eventually feel the benefits of such healthy habits.
Remembering and meditating on these basic truths can also help.
You are loved.
You are divine.
You are capable.
You are strong.
And, as always, consistency is key.
You can do this. You have everything you need inside you.